Stephy Loves…

Let People Enjoy Things!

It’s driving me up the wall to see all the ways that people want to rain on the things others enjoy. It also bothers me how much of the disdain is reserved for traditionally “feminine” things, like the intense scorn being heaped on the so-called “basic bitches” who are trying


The Myth of Competition

The messages are everywhere. “In a world full of Kardashians, be a Diana.” “Be a Lucy.” “Be an Audrey.” “You hate me because you ain’t me.” “Why can’t you be like your sister/cousin/friend?” There’s this idea that we have to be in competition with each other, that we’re constantly being